If you've found your way here, you're likely to be encountering something that no longer feels manageable on your own.​ Welcome to the human club. Most people's lives feature moments like these. Mine has.

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As a result, you may be wondering:

What is happening to me? How might therapy help? How do you work, Nathan? Is this worth it?

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I've tried below to answer some understandable questions in the hope that it may be of some help to your process.

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What is happening to me?

Ultimately, a part of you has been overwhelmed. In some shape or form, your mental and/or emotional capacity has been exceeded. Either by some recent emotionally painful events or losses, or by the cumulative effects of a long-term pattern of emotional avoidance.

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Everyone's story is unique, so understanding the detail is impossible without exploration. Thankfully, there are some patterns I've seen often enough and ideas that I use that often provide a helpful place to begin.

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Firstly – sooner or later, some painfully overwhelming events happen to everyone. When they do, we tend to push the vulnerable feelings associated with them down, away or to one side. Into something I call The Unsaid Space.

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You might think of it as the place where you store your unexplored confusion, pain and grief – your emotional baggage.

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Secondly - I've yet to meet anyone whose Unsaid Space doesn't have a limit. A capacity. When that capacity is reached, we experience internal overwhelm, which eventually surfaces in some form of lost, anxious or depressive sensations and thoughts, in our minds and bodies.

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Thirdly - when that capacity has been reached, the ways we learned to manage can stop working as well as they used to. Keeping busy, thinking, staying strong, distracting yourself or pushing through, becomes less effective when there's too much to contain. Which is where therapy can help.

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How can therapy help?

The compassion and support that a good therapeutic relationship creates a safe space in which to meet, understand and integrate these thoughts and feelings.

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The aim of it isn't to become someone else. It's to understand yourself so well that you no longer have to be driven by what has gone unsaid or unresolved. When persevered with, people become more confident, more connected, more resilient, and able to make freer choices rather than simply trying to get by.

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How do you work Nathan?

I work with people suffering from a range of symptoms from anxiety and low mood through to complex trauma, PTSD and personality disorders. I work in an integrated way which basically means I tailor therapy for each individual client, rather than using a single model.

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My approach draws on thousands of hours working with people and their stories. Rather than relying on a single therapeutic model, I draw from a range of approaches I've studied and worked with. Depending on what feels most helpful, our work may include breathing, movement, writing, EMDR, time in nature or trauma release techniques – not just talking things through, because deeper change usually involves more than words.

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My main focus is on how you relate to your life – your thoughts, feelings, body, and relationships. The aim is to uncover the stories and ways you've learnt to live by and protect yourself from difficult experiences, and how those patterns shape your life today. As they make more sense, you naturally update how you understand yourself and respond to life.

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Is it worth it?

Many people hesitate because therapy feels like a significant investment. I get that. The question I encourage people to consider instead isn't what therapy may cost them, but what it'll cost them to spend another year(s) living with old patterns that affect their relationships so negatively. Particularly the one they have with themselves.

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How long will it take?

Everyone's different. Some people notice meaningful changes quickly; others find their patterns are deeper and so take longer to understand and shift. .

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How do I start?

In short, from wherever you are. There is no right way. You don't have to arrive knowing exactly what's wrong or what you want to say. Most people don't. They just begin with whatever feels most present, and we make sense of it together from there.

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It's usually best to try different professionals until you find one you feel comfortable working with. 

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I offer a free 20-minute introductory conversation to discuss your situation and see whether working together feels right for you. You can book one via the button below. We can then agree the goals and rhythm of our work in our first session and review them as needed.

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Individual Fees

£85 per 50 minute session

Weekly or fortnightly 

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​Family Fees

£110 per 50 minute session (2 people)

Additional family members £25 each.  

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If you'd like to hear what previous clients have said about working with me, you'll find some testimonials here.